In what has become a bit of a recurring theme on this Blog over the past few years, I apologize for the shortage (or lack) of posts recently. I’d say that I’ve been busy with various things, but to tell you the truth I haven’t been quite as busy as I might normally be, mostly on account of the fact that my last contract at work ended at the end of last year. Fortunately I’ve got the next one lined up now and I expect to start it next Monday, but even without work to worry about, there’s still been plenty going on. Fortunately, I’ve dealt with enough job instability over the years to know that I need to plan for it whether it’s coming or not. In this case, it was nice because it allowed me to have a bit more flexibility on my job search and the ability to be a little more picky about things than I might otherwise be. That’s a good thing, because that’s not the only major life change I’ve got coming in the near future.
To make a long story short, my girlfriend of several years (and whom I have known for a number of years before that) has now become my fiancée of several weeks. Of all the big life-altering decisions that one might make over the course of a lifetime that’s probably right near the top of the list, and I’m just starting to realize how much things are going to be changing over the course of the next few months. Probably the biggest and most obvious one is that I will need to make some changes to my living arrangements, which means moving out of my current apartment. It’s certainly a nice (if a bit expensive) bachelor pad, and I’ll be disappointed when I have to leave, but even for just myself the place feels a bit on the crowded side. It’s actually a pretty decent sized place for a 1-bedroom in Downtown Bellevue, but the layout could use a bit of work. It’s also had its share of problems, mostly with the plumbing (as I wrote a couple of posts ago I’ve had a leak in the shower which was recently fixed, but which introduced another problem with the hot water being disappointingly tepid because the shower valve would only open up about halfway. And believe me, there are few things more disappointing than a lukewarm shower, especially when you know you’ve got plenty of hot water. Fortunately that issue got fixed now, and I can actually take a decent shower again. Of course, that’s just a minor little quibble in the grand scheme of things, especially compared to the damage caused by a leaking pipe at my fiancée’s sister’s house last week. That one took out a decent chunk of drywall and a room of carpet, and is still being dealt with as of when this is being written, which isn’t exactly making me look forward to the joys of home ownership when the time comes.
But aside from where we are going to live, there are a whole lot of other changes that come with this as well, mostly in terms of what things will be like when we get there. Aside from the obvious ones I won’t discuss here, it is going to take me some getting used to living with someone else in the house again. For nearly ten years now I have had an apartment to myself, and I suspect I’ve probably developed a few habits over the years that might be somewhat less than fully compatible with living with another person, even (or especially) one I might happen to be married to. It has already been decreed that the couch in the living room needs to go (preferably in a method that involves setting it on fire) and it’s been strongly suggested that a king size bed might be a good idea by the time we start sharing one. Fortunately the big TV can stay, but I suspect she will end up using it more than I will. But mostly I suspect I’ll have to change some behaviors.
And the on top of all that, there’s the wedding to plan. Fortunately, there seems to be no shortage of people willing to take care of that (apparently there are plenty of people in both my family and in my fiancée’s family who seem more than happy to plan weddings for some reason.) Mostly I have to come up with the rings (all of them, including the big shiny one we’re still in the process of working on) and tuxes, then I have to actually show up to the reception. On one hand, I hear from other people that you hardly remember much of the reception because it all ends up being a bit of a blur and you have about half a zillion things to do and all sorts of people to meet while you’re there. On the other hand, maybe if I’m the one getting married this time I can go to a wedding reception and not have to help with cleanup afterward.
It’s a lot of work to figure all this out, but in the end, it should be worth it. It’s been a long time coming, and I look forward to no longer having to answer endless “When are you going to get married?” questions from friends and family. Oh yeah, and there might be some other benefits to the whole thing as well, but I’ll just figure those out when I get there.